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𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙙·𝙤𝙬 - 𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚗: 𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚍𝚘𝚠; 𝚙𝚕𝚞𝚛𝚊𝚕 𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚗: 𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚍𝚘𝚠𝚜 𝟷. 𝚊 𝚍𝚊𝚛𝚔 𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚊 𝚘𝚛 𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚙𝚎 𝚙𝚛𝚘𝚍𝚞𝚌𝚎𝚍 𝚋𝚢 𝚊 𝚋𝚘𝚍𝚢 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚋𝚎𝚝𝚠𝚎𝚎𝚗 𝚛𝚊𝚢𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚕𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚊 𝚜𝚞𝚛𝚏𝚊𝚌𝚎. 𝟸. 𝚞𝚜𝚎𝚍 𝚒𝚗 𝚛𝚎𝚏𝚎𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚙𝚛𝚘𝚡𝚒𝚖𝚒𝚝𝚢, 𝚘𝚖𝚒𝚗𝚘𝚞𝚜 𝚘𝚙𝚙𝚛𝚎𝚜𝚜𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜, 𝚘𝚛 𝚜𝚊𝚍𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚐𝚕𝚘𝚘𝚖. 𝙄𝙣 𝙥𝙨𝙮𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙤𝙜𝙮, 𝚝𝚑𝚎 '𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚍𝚘𝚠' 𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚜𝚒𝚍𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚘𝚗𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚝𝚊𝚒𝚗𝚜 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚝𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 […]

Grief is said to be a journey rather than a singular event or emotion. Many mental health professionals have given labels the various stages of grief but since we all grieve differently they can't tell us exactly how or when we will move from one stage to the next or if we ever will in […]

We forget sometimes that depression and mental illness are terminal JUST LIKE CANCER. Cancer is when the body's cells turn on the body and destroy us from the inside. The thing is, they can't see it and test for it. There are no physical tests for depression. Depression and mental illness are much more that […]

First lets talk about what mindfulness is... 𝙈𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙥𝙖𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙢𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩. Being mindful helps us control the repetitive, negative, and destructive thoughts caused by grief that lead to stress, depression, and anxiety. We tend to spend so much of our time thinking about how we could have changed […]

Grief is so strong that it affects our mental state and our body physically. The emotions that make up grief usually also come with a negative mindset. This begins the downward spiral of negativity and bitterness. We feel like we don’t deserve to or just can’t seem to find a way be happy. We have […]

I still remember that day at the cemetery. I didn't want to go. I hated it there. I hated her.... still. Even after 4.5 years. I STILL hated her for what she did to us. How could she? The kids were 3 & 13. I thought I was her soulmate. How TF could she choose […]

Every thought, belief, fact, and memory we have is stored in our brains as NEURON PATHWAYS. They are a pattern that represents every thought we’ve ever had. All of our thoughts are electrical impulses that create a path to another. Like Morse Code of the mind. When our brains try to processes a new thought, […]

For years I wondered what I could have done to prevent them from losing their mom. It tortured me. They were 3 & 13, they need their mommy. If I had only seen the signs and did something. I failed her. I should have seen it. I should have known better. No one could have […]

The red flags were everywhere... But at the time I couldn't see them. One of the hardest lessons I have learned is that I CAN NOT blame myself now for what I didn't know back then. But I did. I chose to. For almost 5 years. I allowed the intense feelings of anger and guilt […]