My name is Jay Deutsch. I am a solo father of two and a self-love and mindset coach. As a child of divorce, I suffered from abandonment issues and rejection issues all my life.
After the lengthy and painful divorce of my parents I bounced back and forth from living with my mother and my father & stepmom. It was rough. I went away to college hoping to change my life and get away from the drama.
I attended Northeastern University where I studied Visual Media Design with the hopes of becoming a graphic designer. It was there where I met my children's mother Larissa. It was love at first sight. We were inseparable. We were together for 26 years and had 2 amazing kids.
Larissa suffered from depression and other un-diagnosed mental health issues most of her life. It was rough living with someone who suffered mental health issues. I did not know exactly what that meant until she lost the battle with her mind and ended her life in 2015 leaving me with our 3 and 13 year old children.
I struggled on as a solo parent, I smiled on the outside but was dead on the inside. I didn't date, I drank a lot, I smoked a lot of weed, and I kept on going, for my kids. I got them the help they needed but didn’t believe I was capable of being helped, I was helpless and hopeless.
After four and a half years of living with the guilt and grief, hating myself and my life, everything changed. I met someone. It was another instant attraction and I thought she was the one. I believed I would be happy again and live the life I deserved.
We quickly got engaged and planned our life together. But sadly it only lasted three months. This was about the same time that COVID hit and I lost my job. It sent me in another downward spiral. They call it “dark night of the soul”.
I went through a transformation. I began reading self help books and books on spirituality. Everything I thought I was changed. I was finally able to let go of the past and move to the here and now.
I was awakened and began my journey back to loving myself and my life. By learning to change my mindset and be more positive, my life was transformed. I learned to accept what is and to be mindful and present. Once this shift in mindset took place, I was able to have a completely different outlook on life in general.
I discovered that my calling in life is to help others so I began my training to become a coach. I became certified in coaching and in NLP (Neuro Linguistics Programming). I also did began research into neuroscience and biology to learn how and why thoughts happen and how they affect the mind and body.
As a self love & mindset coach I help those that have lost someone to get though their grief by understanding why they feel the way they do and how to once again find happiness.
If you'd like to find how I can help you lets, schedule a free discovery call