Self Love and Mindset Coaching
 & Reiki Healing

I help those that have lost loved ones move from grief to happiness.


The Journey Back To Happiness

Welcome, I am Jay, a Self-Love and Mindset Coach, specializing in guiding those who have endured the profound pain of loss towards a path of healing and personal growth. Grief, as we know, can be paralyzingโ€”a relentless storm of emotions that can leave us trapped in waves dominated by regret, hopelessness, and a fear of the future.

I understand this journey intimately, for I too have walked through the shadows of grief. In June of 2015 I lost my soulmate of 26 years, the mother of my two young children, to suicide. The darkness of grief consumed us for years, casting a long and daunting shadow over our lives.

But within that darkness, I discovered a choiceโ€”a choice to break free from the ruminating thoughts, limiting beliefs, and negative emotional reactions that held me captive for so long. I chose to heal, to learn to love myself, and to find the strength and ability to love life once more. Today, I am here to guide you on your own journey of transformation and healing, to help you navigate the challenging waves of grief, and to show you that there is indeed life after loss.

Now, nine years later, my children and I are healed, we are happy, and we love life. We no longer look back to the past with the ruminating thoughts about what was, what isn't, what will never be, instead we learned to look back to the past with love and gratitude for the wonderful years we were blessed with her presence and look ahead with hope, excitement, and determination to live our best lives while carrying her memory in our hearts.

As your grief coach, I am committed to helping you unlock the power of your own inner strength and healing abilities to transform your mindset and your life by guiding you through a journey of acceptance and letting go by teaching you a powerful combination of mindset training, proven NLP techniques, and emotional healing practices that have helped not only me and my children heal, but 100% of my clients as well.

I am a Certified Coach, NLP Practitioner, Reiki Healer, and have years of research in Neuroscience, Neurobiology, thoughts, emotions, and feelings, EMDR, Spirituality, Psychology, Depression, Suicide, Quantum Physics, Quantum Mechanics, Emotional Regulation, Neuroplacticity, Mindfulness, Awareness, Meditation, and several other scientifically proven techniques that I use in my program to teach you to shift your mindset from grieving to healing.

I invite you to take the first step towards healing by reaching out for a free session. Together, we will embark on a journey of healing grief, rebuilding your life, and discovering the profound beauty that exists on the other side of loss.

Your path to healing begins here, and I am here to walk it with you.

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What is a Grief Coach?

Coaching is different from counseling or therapy. A Grief Coach isnโ€™t a doctor, counselor, or therapist that will label you as having a "medical condition" and then read up on how to treat you or "fix" you or what chemicals to prescribe you to treat your symptoms. You arenโ€™t broken, you aren't sick. There is nothing wrong with you. How you are feeling is normal! Instead of focusing on the past and where you were, coaches begin with where you are right now and focus on helping you get to where you want to be. A Coach is someone who takes you on a journey of self discovery focusing on your strengths to help you identify and break down barriers, solve problems, and achieve goals. By identifying your obstacles and offering proven techniques to overcome them a Coach assists you in healing yourself.

As a Self Love & Mindset Coach specializing in Grief, I will help you to shift your perspective, gain clarity, raise your awareness, take helpful actions, and reprogram self-sabotaging thoughts and actions that have you feeling stuck, lacking the self love, happiness, and positive mindset needed to overcome your grief. Not only was I where you are right now, but I healed and found happiness after my loss. I know what works based on my own personal experience, the experiences of my 2 children, and my many former clients who are also free from the pain and suffering of grief.

Are you currently receiving counseling or therapy? Do you feel like there is anything missing or something more you would like support with that you aren't receiving? If you feel like you are not getting everything you need from the time you spend with your current counselor or therapist please reach out and see how coaching can assist you with overcoming your barriers by focusing on the present and not the past.

Click below for your FREE 60 Minute Discovery Session where we will talk about where you are, where you want to be, and how to get there. The past is just a memory, the future is just a thought, and the time to change is now!

Gain Structural Alignment

In order to love yourself and your life you must learn to be authentic and identify your core values and desires. By being true to your hopes and dreams and aligning with your true self you will create the life you desire and deserve.


Discovering your own deep truth provides clarity that leads to a potent change.


Gain a vision or what you desire your life situation to be like. This vision MUST align with your truth or it will never be reality.


Find out what it is about you that is special to other people and why they appreciate you. Your purpose MUST align with your vision and your truth in order to be reality.


Finding your true self, absence of ego, letting go of your fears and trusting in what was meant to be. Knowing that everything happens for a reason exactly as it should.

Inner Peace

Once you have achieved a high enough level of self love you learn to let go of the need for validation from others. You will be happy and have a positive outlook on life in general.

Schedule a free discovery call now!


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A  Guided Meditation for Grief

Meditation is something everyone can do to improve their consciousness and their overall well being.

This is a guided meditation focusing on mindfulness and breathing for those suffering from grief. This meditation uses theta frequency binaural beats and a relaxing music track to to assist you in achieving a meditative state.

This guided meditation is a great way to re-awaken your heart to love and happiness during the grieving process Through the simple act of connecting with your inner self, this easy guided meditation is perfect for anyone that is needing some positivity and calm during these painful times. It will assist you in letting go of the ruminating thoughts, negativity, stress, anxiety.... whatever is holding you back in your life. Let this meditation take you on a journey to help you heal yourself and move from grief to happiness.

This meditation was created for you with ๐“ค๐“ท๐“ฌ๐“ธ๐“ท๐“ญ๐“ฒ๐“ฝ๐“ฒ๐“ธ๐“ท๐“ช๐“ต ๐“›๐“ธ๐“ฟ๐“ฎ because I care about you and your healing journey. My kids and I lost their mom to suicide in 2015 and meditation has been a huge part of my healing. Life is too short to suffer through it. After 4.5 years of misery I woke up out of my grief and decided to change my life. I hope to help you too!

For best results set aside 10-15 minutes where you can get comfortable and not be disturbed. This meditation will work best using headphones or earbuds. ๐—ฃ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†.


  • Patrice

    I just had my 60 minute discovery session with Jay. I have to say it was an amazing experience, he brought a lot of insight to my grieving process. He talked about different things that I have never thought of as far as how your mind and your brain works. I would highly recommend this for those who are living with grief. He offers extended sessions which I would encourage those who can sign up for them. Thank you Jay you are an amazing spirit so glad that you have this page for us.


    Thank you Jay for an amazing discovery session a short moment ago. So many helpful pointers were shared and I had my own moments of awareness for certain meds and beliefs reviewed from a different point of perspective I truly recommend this for anyone who wants to see change in their lives


    I am very thankful for working with Jay. We just celebrated our first Christmas without my husband. I still miss my husband, but I'm learning my new normal and it's OK to be happy.
  • Heather

    What an amazing session I had this evening with Jay! I cannot say thank you enough Jay, you were absolutely amazing! I highly recommend Jay to anyone who wants results.


    My husband committed suicide 1/19/21. I was left feeling numb and alone with tremendous amounts of guilt. I felt guilt that I wasn't enough for my husband. I could have been a better wife and mom. I felt guilty because I didn't grieve as much as I thought I should or even family members were grieving. I had issues with being a people pleaser and with my worrying about things that "might" happen in the future. Jay and I started working on many of my issues. I was skeptical at first but Jay's simple and practical steps for how to live with peace and happiness and most of all love, has changed my life I am forever grateful for Jay's help.


    I need to thank you Jay, I seem to have turned a corner in my grief.
    It has gotten better,
    I can be happy, I have met somebody who understands which I never thought would be possible.
    I have a future again.
    I have made a lot of progress moving forward myself but some of your writings really resonated and how to push me, maybe because I lost my wife in the same fashion. Words can make a difference.
  • Cara

    I miss my fiancรฉ, but honestly Jay has made me realize that there was nothing I could've done, that I'm still alive. I want to honor Rob by living the life he would've wanted for me. He wanted me to be happy. I think for me it gives me some peace to go forward. I will always love and miss him. I'm sure I will shed tears for him because we had 10 years of love, and lots more years from school โ€“ present to cherish. Today's a good day for me for the first time since he took his life. Jay you are an angel and you don't even know it you can't even imagine how much you helped me. Your kind heart will help so many people through the grief of suicide, your positivity astounds me.


    Jay thank you from the bottom of my heart.
    From this day forward I will carry that with me and remind myself every single time I start to look back and feel the guilt of our last moments together. We had a wonderful life together and I really need to focus more on that positive.
    Thank you so much and love to you.


    Jay Deutsch thank you so much for having my back when I needed someone who understands and for being a rod in my spine when I was weak and needed it, love you.

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