Transforming lives, one mindset at a time.

Helping those that have lost a loved one make the shift from grieving to healing  with Neuroscience and Intention.

My Story

The Journey Back To Happiness

I help those who have lost someone they love find healing, peace, purpose, and joy in life after loss.

Grief can feel like a never-ending storm. But there is a path forward—and you don’t have to walk it alone. I'm here to guide you, one step at a time. You don't have to learn to live with it, and it does not have to last forever, healing is possible and I can show you how.
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Hi, I'm Jay and this is my story

In 2015 I lost my soulmate of 26 years to suicide. Our children, Zack and Emma were only three and thirteen. I know the darkness that follows loss. For nearly five long years I allowed grief to consume me, my every thought, every waking moment–but I also discovered the light beyond it. Today, my children and I live in joy, not pain. And I help others do the same through mindset coaching, emotional healing, and spiritual growth. You're not broken. You’re grieving. Healing is possible. I found the path and I'm here to guide you through it too.
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The Path to Healing

This isn’t just about surviving—it’s about living again, fully, and with purpose and intention.
Take the first step toward healing. I’ll walk with you.

Intention

Healing doesn’t start with a plan—it starts with a decision. Intention is the quiet moment you choose to stop surviving and start reclaiming your life. It’s the root of all healing, and it begins with one powerful truth: you deserve happiness.

Awareness

Grief clouds everything. Awareness clears the fog. Learning to be aware of your thoughts, emotions, and patterns with honesty and tenderness. From here, true understanding and change can begin.

Acceptance

You haven’t lost your power—it’s just buried under the weight of grief.
Through mindset work, we focus on your thoughts, emotions, and nervous system so you can begin to feel grounded, capable, and hopeful again.

Alignment

You are not the same person you were before loss—and that’s okay. Healing is about rediscovering your identity, passions, and purpose. You’ll start to reconnect with what brings you joy, meaning, and fulfillment in this next chapter of your life.

Living with Purpose

Healing isn't about forgetting. It’s about choosing love and creating a life worth living again—the empowered choice to live with intention, joy, and connection, while carrying love and good
memories forward.
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The Book

Grief changes everything. This book will help you find you way forward.

What happens when life as you knew it ends?
In My Life After Loss - From Grieving to Healing With Neuroscience and Intention, I share the raw, honest journey of navigating life after the sudden loss of my soulmate to suicide. This isn’t just a story about grief—it’s a guide for anyone struggling to find meaning after devastation.

Whether you're newly grieving or years into your healing, this book offers insights, tools based in Neuroscience, EMDR, NLP, Mindfulness and more to help you move from surviving to thriving. It’s part our story, part the science behind healing, and part roadmap for transformation.

If you're ready to feel seen, supported, and reminded that joy is still possible—you’ll find comfort in these pages.

Get your copy today on Amazon in paperback or Kindle.

From My Blog

May 8, 2025
The Way You Speak to Yourself Is the Life You Live

The Way You Speak to Yourself Is the Life You Live There’s something that doesn’t get said enough when we talk about healing: it’s not just what happened to you that shapes your life. It’s what you say to yourself about what happened that creates your reality. No, we don’t choose the traumas, the grief, […]

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March 6, 2025
Why Antidepressants Are Counterproductive in the Grief Process

Why Antidepressants Are Counterproductive in the Grief Process The Problem with Medicating Grief Grief is not a disorder. It is not an illness, and it does not need to be treated with pharmaceuticals. But modern medicine, obsessed with numbing every human experience that feels uncomfortable, has convinced people that deep sorrow must be fixed. So, […]

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February 6, 2025
The Illusion of Separation... and Grief

The Illusion of Separation... and Grief Loss, whether through death or the end of a long-term relationship, isn't just emotional—it’s neurological. For years, we build neural pathways that wire us to another person. Every interaction, every moment of love or pain, happiness or misery, strengthens those networks, reinforcing the emotional chemistry that becomes part of […]

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A  Guided Meditation for Grief

Meditation is something everyone can do to improve their emotional state and their overall health and well being.

This is a guided meditation focusing on mindfulness and breathing for those suffering from grief. This meditation uses theta frequency binaural beats and a relaxing music track to to assist you in achieving a meditative state.

This is a great way to soothe the nervous system during the grieving process. Through the simple act of connecting with your inner self, this easy guided meditation is perfect for anyone that is needing some positivity and calm during these painful times. It will assist you in letting go of the ruminating thoughts, negativity, stress, anxiety.... whatever is holding you back in your life.

For best results set aside 10-15 minutes where you can get comfortable and not be disturbed. This meditation will work best using headphones or earbuds.

𝗣𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝗱𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗱𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗿 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘆.

Testimonials

  • Patrice

    I just had my 60 minute discovery session with Jay. I have to say it was an amazing experience, he brought a lot of insight to my grieving process. He talked about different things that I have never thought of as far as how your mind and your brain works. I would highly recommend this for those who are living with grief. He offers extended sessions which I would encourage those who can sign up for them. Thank you Jay you are an amazing spirit so glad that you have this page for us.




    Sharon


    Thank you Jay for an amazing discovery session a short moment ago. So many helpful pointers were shared and I had my own moments of awareness for certain meds and beliefs reviewed from a different point of perspective I truly recommend this for anyone who wants to see change in their lives

    Dian


    I am very thankful for working with Jay. We just celebrated our first Christmas without my husband. I still miss my husband, but I'm learning my new normal and it's OK to be happy.
  • Heather


    What an amazing session I had this evening with Jay! I cannot say thank you enough Jay, you were absolutely amazing! I highly recommend Jay to anyone who wants results.

    Dain

    My husband committed suicide 1/19/21. I was left feeling numb and alone with tremendous amounts of guilt. I felt guilt that I wasn't enough for my husband. I could have been a better wife and mom. I felt guilty because I didn't grieve as much as I thought I should or even family members were grieving. I had issues with being a people pleaser and with my worrying about things that "might" happen in the future. Jay and I started working on many of my issues. I was skeptical at first but Jay's simple and practical steps for how to live with peace and happiness and most of all love, has changed my life I am forever grateful for Jay's help.

    Dave

    I need to thank you Jay, I seem to have turned a corner in my grief.
    It has gotten better,
    I can be happy, I have met somebody who understands which I never thought would be possible.
    I have a future again.
    I have made a lot of progress moving forward myself but some of your writings really resonated and how to push me, maybe because I lost my wife in the same fashion. Words can make a difference.
  • Cara

    I miss my fiancé, but honestly Jay has made me realize that there was nothing I could've done, that I'm still alive. I want to honor Rob by living the life he would've wanted for me. He wanted me to be happy. I think for me it gives me some peace to go forward. I will always love and miss him. I'm sure I will shed tears for him because we had 10 years of love, and lots more years from school – present to cherish. Today's a good day for me for the first time since he took his life. Jay you are an angel and you don't even know it you can't even imagine how much you helped me. Your kind heart will help so many people through the grief of suicide, your positivity astounds me.

    Jennifer


    Jay thank you from the bottom of my heart.
    From this day forward I will carry that with me and remind myself every single time I start to look back and feel the guilt of our last moments together. We had a wonderful life together and I really need to focus more on that positive.
    Thank you so much and love to you.

    Sarah


    Jay Deutsch thank you so much for having my back when I needed someone who understands and for being a rod in my spine when I was weak and needed it, love you.
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