Forgiving why is it so hard to forgive

I would like to talk about forgiveness.

Many people, including me at one time, think that forgiving ourselves or someone else's wrong doing means that we are okay with what was done.

That is NOT what forgiving is.

𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿, 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱, 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗲 𝗖𝗛𝗢𝗢𝗦𝗘 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗿𝘆 𝗼𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗻 𝗼𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲, 𝗳𝗹𝗮𝘄, 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲, 𝗼𝗿 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿.

  • Forgiving does NOT mean that you condone wrong doing.
  • Forgiveness is NOT about you deciding that what someone did is okay if it was not.
  • Forgiving does NOT mean you have to forget.
  • Forgiveness IS: eliminating the negativity that results from hurt by letting go of emotional baggage and a negative mindset.

Many of us choose to hold on to anger and blame because it allows us to justify our pain.

It took me almost 5 years to forgive myself and my children's mother after she took herself from us. The anger and pain was intense and I chose to hold on to it for a long time.

Then, I realized that I was only hurting myself and my children by holding on to the anger and not forgiving. She was gone, I couldn't show her my anger, I couldn't yell at her or make her feel bad for dying. I realized that holding on and not forgiving was just destroying me and my happiness.

𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄𝘀 𝘂𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿, 𝗯𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗯𝗹𝗮𝗺𝗲, 𝗼𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲. 𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗷𝗼𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀.

By holding on to the past we prevent ourselves from enjoying the present. The present is all that is real in life. The past is a memory and the future is a dream. That is why now is called the present!🎁

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