After nearly five years of numbing the pain with alcohol and drugs, wearing a mask, and pretending I was okay, I made a choice—one that changed everything.
I chose to heal. Not just for me, but for my children, and for her. I chose to stop surviving and start living again—while honoring the love and memories from our 26 years together. Now, I help others do the same: heal their grief, reclaim their joy, and create a life they actually want to live.
Hi, I’m Jay Deutsch—a solo father, self-love and mindset coach, and someone who knows grief inside and out.
In June of 2015, my world shattered when I lost my soulmate of 26 years, Larissa, to suicide. I was left to raise our two children, who were just 3 and 13 at the time, completely on my own. On the outside, I kept going for my kids. But inside, I was numb. I drank, smoked, isolated, I didn't sleep, and I lived with constant guilt, self blame, and hopelessness. I got them the help they needed, but I didn’t believe healing was possible for me.
Then, after nearly 5 years of barely surviving, everything came crashing down again. I lost my job at the start of the pandemic, triggering a flood of unresolved trauma, from childhood abandonment to heartbreak and grief. What followed was what many call a "dark night of the soul" and it forced me to face everything I had been avoiding.
That breakdown became the beginning of my breakthrough.
I dove into self-discovery, neuroscience, NLP, mindset work, emotional healing, and spiritual growth. I read, researched, cried, meditated, and I transformed. I learned how our thoughts shape our reality, how the nervous system responds to grief and negative self-talk, and how healing happens when we stop running from our pain.
Today, I’m certified in coaching and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), and I specialize in helping people who have lost someone rediscover who they are, and find joy, self love, and meaning again.
Healing from grief is possible, not by forgetting the past, but by changing how we relate to it, how we think of it, and how we define it. If you're feeling stuck in your grief and ready to find a way forward, I’d be honored to support you.
👉 Schedule a Free Discovery Call.Grief changes everything. This book will help you find you way forward.
What happens when life as you knew it ends?
In My Life After Loss - From Grieving to Healing With Neuroscience and Intention, I share the raw, honest journey of navigating life after the sudden loss of my soulmate to suicide. This isn’t just a story about grief—it’s a guide for anyone struggling to find meaning after devastation.
Whether you're newly grieving or years into your healing, this book offers insights, tools based in Neuroscience, EMDR, NLP, Mindfulness and more to help you move from surviving to thriving. It’s part our story, part the science behind healing, and part roadmap for transformation.
If you're ready to feel seen, supported, and reminded that joy is still possible—you’ll find comfort in these pages.
Get your copy today on Amazon in paperback or Kindle.
This isn’t just a journal. This is your turning point.
You’ve been told grief lasts forever.
That it becomes part of you.
That joy after loss is betrayal.
You’ve heard all the clichés.
This journal doesn’t repeat them. It breaks them.
Over the next 90 days, you’ll be guided through thought-provoking prompts rooted in neuroscience, mindset work, and radical self-honesty. You’ll challenge the beliefs keeping you stuck. You’ll learn to feel what you’ve been avoiding. And you’ll remember your power to choose what comes next.
Whether you’re just beginning or ready to finally let go — this is your space to heal.
One page at a time.
Because the truth is:
You are the light. You are the healer. You are the one who gets to decide what happens now.