How long does grief last?

For some it can be a few months, for some a few years, and for some it lasts forever.

Because grief is NOT caused by loss. Grief is an emotional response to our thoughts about the loss and our expectations of the future.

We feel whatever it is that we think about and focus on.

It took me YEARS to figure that out. I kept choosing to allow the thoughts about her suicide, the blame, the anger, the LOSS, and my expectations of the future that will never happen to ruminate in my mind. It became a cycle that I didn't know I could control.

I kept creating more and more pain for myself. My body became addicted to the feelings and I refused to take control of my thoughts. I didn't know how to. No one ever taught me.

I believed the thoughts. I allowed them to control me and my life and to create my future thoughts, emotions, and feelings.

But then I had enough. I realized that I didn't like how I was living MY LIFE...

I made the choice to stop being a victim of my mindset and did the work to learn how to change it.

I TAUGHT MYSELF HOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN - - NOW!

• Once I STOPPED telling myself that it would last forever.
• Once I STOPPED telling myself that I couldn't live without her.
• Once I STOPPED telling myself that I can't do this.
• nce I STOPPED telling myself I would never be happy again.
• Once I STOPPED telling myself that my life sucked.
• Once I STOPPED telling myself all of the things that I didn't want to be true they stopped being true.

It all STARTED once I began telling myself:
• I AM HAPPY.
• I AM LOVE.
• I AM LIGHT.
• I LOVE MYSELF.
• I LOVE MY LIFE.
• I AM LOVED.
• I AM WORTHY.
• I AM ENOUGH.
• I AM A GREAT DAD.
• I CAN DO THIS ALONE.
• I CAN....

AND YOU CAN TOO.

WE CREATE OUR REALITY WITH THE THOUGHTS WE HAVE AND THE THINGS WE SAY TO OURSELVES AND BELIEVE TO BE TRUE.

But the ONLY way to get different results is to STOP doing what you have been doing, thinking, and believing...

OUR LIVES ARE A REFLECTION OF OUR THOUGHTS.

YOU must decide to break the cycle and end the routine that you have been stuck in.

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