Your Past Does Not Define Who You Are

Many people think that their past made them who they are today. That is true to a degree and it is false.

It depends on who you BELIEVE you are.

Are you your thoughts, emotions, feelings, experiences, PERSONALITY? Or are you a soul that is constantly learning, changing, growing and BECOMING who you are meant to be?

When we allow our past to define us we are telling ourselves that we are not capable or learning lessons and changing our personality based on those lessons and new perspectives.

I used to be an angry miserable person that hated the world. I used to BLAME my parent's and their vindictive divorce for how I was. It was just how I was programmed as a child.

After Larissa's suicide it got worse...

I was a complete ASSHOLE. I hated everyone. Even those I loved and who loved me.


Some believe that people can not change. Some people define themselves by their past and their false sense of self. They often say " that's just how I am." But... the past does not exist and therefore it can’t define who we chose to be.

According to Dr. Linda Paul, “No, the past does not define who you are. The past certainly influences a person, including influencing how they see their possibilities, but some change and some control is possible. This is one of the goals of education, actually. To help people see from different perspectives, to understand their experience differently, to realize different ways of thinking and responding to what we are confronted with. Effort put into these practices allows us to have some control over who we become."

The things that happened to us, or more realistically for us, give us the opportunity to either blame the situations or learn from them.

So... who you are today, which is completely a choice, does not have to be who you are tomorrow.

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