𝓐𝓶 𝓘 𝔀𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓱𝔂 𝓸𝓯 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮?
A lack of self love usually comes from our childhood. Either our parents didn't know how to show love to each other or they didn't know how to show it to us as children. This lack of love creates a low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem is also caused by our own thoughts and fears. Some think they are too ugly to be loved, or too fat, or too dumb, or too lazy... No matter the cause, they are all lies and limiting beliefs that we tell ourselves. We tell ourselves this so much that we actually believe it to be true.
Some of us think that we have done bad things or have had bad things done to us that prevents us from feeling worthy. This causes us to undervalue ourselves and treat ourselves poorly.
We also tend to let others treat us poorly. We feel like we don't deserve better. This is painful and can lead to depression and an overall poor quality of life.
When we lack self love we try to search for love in others, in external situations. We try to find love outside of ourselves. We think that others can make us feel what we are missing inside. We get into relationships and tell other people that they complete us, that they make us happy. The truth is, no one can make you feel ANYTHING. All your thoughts and emotions are yours. They are your choice.
Lack of self love is something that can be worked on and healed. You can learn to love yourself. It is a lot more than just looking in the mirror and saying I love you! but that does help.
Learning to love yourself involves a complete change in mindset. You have to reprogram your mind and let go of all of the limiting beliefs that hold you back from being happy. Letting go of judgement. Being grateful for all that you do have going for you. It is about having a positive outlook on life in general. Some people can do this on their own. Some need help.
If you would like to change your mindset, have a positive outlook on life, and learn to love yourself schedule a free call. I can help you!